What arrangements will you make!
Life happens. There is a school of thought out there that says everything that happens to you, you have attracted into your life. I believe that you certainly create a large part of your life, but there is a small percentage of your life that just happens. It’s what you do with what happens that counts.
Steven Covey talks about the 90/10 principle. 10% of our lives we have no control over. Life happens. 90% of our lives we control (create) by how we react to that 10%. How we create that 90% also has a lot to do with our thoughts, attitudes and beliefs, and I am sure I will write about that over and over. But, today, I want to look at what to do with that 10%.
Dr Wayne Dyer encourages this: “You must be willing to take whatever pieces of life come your way and arrange them so that they work with and for you rather than against you.” We cannot always control what experiences life sends us. But we can always take something good out of any situation by asking the right questions and taking any learning into our future.
Some people allow themselves to wallow in a ‘bad’ piece of life for ages, well, often forever. They stay stuck in that moment, blaming the rest of their lives on that experience. They don’t move on. They don’t learn. They get some satisfaction from being able to blame the poorness of their lives/ health/ relationships on the event. They have willingly (even if unwittingly) arranged that the unfortunate piece of life they were sent, works against them.
You will experience far greater control over and satisfaction about your life, if you stand back and look at the piece of life you have been sent and discover what you can learn. You need to learn to analyse the situation and ask the right questions. Above all, make some space in time and emotions before you react to what has happened.
How can you arrange what has happened in your head
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so that it fits into the big picture for your life?
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so that you honour your value system?
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so that you learn something that leads to positive change?
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so that your reactions move you closer to a life you want, rather than further away?